Strap-on Dildo Size : Finding the Perfect Fit

Are you looking for the best dildo size?

Here at Wet For Her, we are know everything there is to know about queer and lesbian sex toys and have made it our mission to help singles and couples in the LGBTQIA+ community find the perfect dildo size.

From dildo girth to overall length, there is a lot to think about when choosing a dildo or choosing a queer sex toy designed for everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community, especially if you want to enjoy maximum pleasure.

Whether you’ve never bought a dildo before or are just searching for a new A-team player for your bedside drawer, this guide will help you find the perfect fit.

One Size Does Not Fit All

Sex is primal and fueled by our instincts; bringing toys into the scene shouldn’t make the experience any less intuitive. The Wet For Her finger sizing guide was designed to be direct and accessible, and printable sex toy sketches are available to help our customers visualize each toy in the Wet For Her line before purchase.

You’ll want to consider both the insertable length and girth of the toy. Larger dildos offer an intense, deeper experience that some crave, but the g-spot is only a few inches inside the vagina so deceptively small toys can still offer mind-blowing results!

For folks who aren’t sure, the Deluxe Silicone Dilator Set is both a gentle first step and an epic journey. It starts small but offers a graduated series of dildos designed to stretch vaginal muscles over time. We recommend beginning with the smaller sizes. If you know (or discover!) that your body craves more, you can always graduate to a thicker, harder, or longer version.

The dilator set is also a clever and cost-effective option for queer couples who have different size preferences. However, if you and your partner do fancy the same dildo, be sure to thoroughly clean between uses. Sharing is not always caring when it comes to your microbiome!

Inch By Inch

Human bodies have enormous capacity for pleasure, but the flip-side to all those nerve endings is that our most sensitive erogenous zones can be sources of pain. Very intense sensations can be a part of penetrative play for many but do distinguish your boundaries. Discomfort and pain are different, and while some kinky sex considers pain the goal, sexual encounters with unintended pain can be your body’s way of recommending a different approach.

Adding a finger vibrator or shifting positions can help. Some dildos include rechargeable vibrators inserted into the base, causing the entire shaft to rumble and providing a delightful and helpful distraction for lovers of vibration. And of course, when in doubt, adding more high-quality lube is never the wrong move!

Dildo Materials

With so much innovation in sex toys for the LGBTQIA+ community, you can now find dildos in a wide range of satisfying materials. While silicone dildos remain the most popular, we have also noticed an increase in demand for our metal dildos. With this unique material and dildo sizes, larger-sized dildos are typically used by experienced persons in BDSM scenes and couples masturbation. Small metal dildos are a better choice for inexperienced users and people with tighter intimate holes.

A glass dildo will also affect how you select the best dildo size for your pleasure. Typically smooth in their design, more inches in girth will deliver rigorous shaft action, while curvier, longer ones will stimulate your G spot.

Vaginal or Anal Penetration

If you are looking for the best dildo size for anal penetration, this is highly likely to differ from the best dildo size for vaginal sex. Anal dildos come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes, with small, tapered toys better suited to beginners.

Although the average penis size is 6”, many people may not feel comfortable with a strap-on size of that length.

When it comes to anal penetration with your partner, lots of lube is vital, and be sure to go slow. Anal training is a must for the uninitiated.

Strapon vs. Strapless

If you’re looking for a dildo to be used during couples play, you’ll want to consider between strap-on dildos (used with a harness) and strapless dildos (can be used without a harness).

Strap-on dildos are held snug against the body with a harness and usually have either a flat or textured base (such as the Five and Fusion). We’ve done the work to ensure all our queer and lesbian strap-on dildos and harnesses sold by Wet For Her are compatible. However, if you’re purchasing a dildo for a different harness, make sure the O-ring on your existing gear will work with your new purchase.

Strapless dildos (also called double dildos) don’t stop at the base; they include an attached bulb that’s inserted into the wearer’s vagina and held in place with help from the PC muscles. The Four and Union double dildos both have adjustable shafts that can be bent to the perfect angle for every position. They also include a USB-rechargeable bullet vibrator that can be inserted into the base so the bulb and shaft vibrate simultaneously.

Sex should be a great time for all involved. If your current toy isn’t living up to the fantasy, it’s time to explore other avenues to orgasm. Get wet and get it on!